Why I'm Not Setting Goals or Picking Words for 2010

(This post is the lame post that I didn’t publish a few days ago. But, now I’m thinking maybe it really wasn’t lame. Either way, following the assignments of my amazing commenters, here you go. If you like it, good. If not, I warned you.)

Here’s the process taught by Pax Programs to find your four words of feminine power:

(go here for a word list to use in this exercise)

It’s 2010 and so now we have to do our “setting goals” or “picking our 3 words for the year” post.

Meh.

Setting goals and picking three theme words for the year may work for some people. It’s really common in the coaching & blogging & business worlds. If theme words and goals work for you, party on.

But thinking my way into what my year should be about — that does not work for me.

The power, the magic, the serendipity of my life is more complicated and amazing than anything my tiny little brain could think up. And anything I would think my way into would be smaller than what will naturally unfold, if I trust myself and take massive action as inspired along the way.

But I don’t proceed themeless. Without any words or mission or principles to direct my life.

The opposite, in fact.

I’ve recently become aware of the four words that describe who I am.

These words are not just my themes for my year. These four words are the themes for my entire life.

Why clients pay me money. How I help & lead my tribe. Where all my success and enjoyment comes from. What friends get from me.

The reason I am on this earth.

You see, last year, when I was studying why men are awesome & was on a journey to embrace my own femininity, I discovered a series of seminars from PAX Communications. The last such seminar I went to, nicknamed the “Queen Workshop,” explored, among other things, where the power of a woman comes from.

To understand, first we need to look at the opposite, masculine power. Masculine power comes from doing, single focus, applying force, making things happen.

(And, there is nothing wrong with that. Masculine power is awesome and one of the reasons men are so yummy. But while women can get results from masculine power, it drains us of energy & is not what makes us magical.)

Feminine power comes from who a woman is being in the moment.

Feminine power is what a woman brings with her when she simply walks into a room.

Each woman brings with her qualities that only she possesses in a particular unique combination. That’s what makes her magical. Inspirational. Fascinating. Irresistible.

I don’t mean this in some magical fairy law of attraction kind of way. And I don’t mean that women are not doing work or that action isn’t required (obviously). Or that we can’t focus, or that some women get results from their masculine power instead of feminine power.

What I mean is that when I finally became aware of how I change people when I walk into a room, I finally understood why clients pay me for what seems effortless. Why some marketing campaigns work for me and others don’t. Why people comment on certain blog posts but not others. Why some people want to be my friend, and others don’t resonate with me. Why I can get tired after 20 minutes of doing one thing — but can work for 6 hours straight on another project yet finish feeling energized.

And, more importantly, what I am called to bring to everyone in my corner of the world.

And you know what the somewhat weird thing is? Many of you have independently used these particular words (or various derivations thereof) to describe me — when you say what you get from reading my blog posts, or from a coaching session with me. So this is not just a mambsy-pambsy seminar thing … my four qualities have been confirmed by independent sources (aka, you guys).

So now after that huge amount of wind up, here you go …

ElizabethPW’s Qualities (or, the themes for EPW’s life):

1. Love

The world “love” in the English language is such a ridiculous oversimplification.

Here I don’t mean just romantic love, or the “I love you’s” that family & friends say to each other. Or even loving yourself (the greatest love of all? oh, gaud, let’s not go there.).

I mean really seeing another person. Their soul. Who they really are. Not their “potential” — what makes them amazing, right now, in this moment.

Allison Nazarian, Sarah Robinson, and I have developed a friendship via twitter (and now, skype/email/texting/facebook/in real life) that has gotten some attention. So many women have contacted us to say that they wished they had a friendship like this. That we are example of what friendship between women can be.

That’s amazing. And terribly sad.

I remember what it was like before 2009. When I really didn’t talk to anyone (and I mean really talk). When no one knew that my marriage was falling apart or how my business was screwed up. When I had no one to confess my insanity to on a daily basis.

It seems like a different life.

My great hope is for all of us to have friendship and love like that.

To all to feel that we are truly seen. Cared about. Heard. Appreciated. Supported unconditionally. Never alone.

If everyone felt that … I don’t know what amazingness would be possible. Would people really need to compete over resources? Hurt each other? Fight wars? Would the problems of the earth all become solvable if each person felt truly cared for?

2. Ecstasy

Here’s where it really gets yummy.

Ecstasy is the joy of being in the present moment.

It is fully experiencing the deliciousness of the world and everyone we encounter, as it naturally unfolds in front of us.

In New York City last week, Allison Nazarian and I were randomly wandering around downtown looking for falafel (I had never eaten it. Oh, and I had no idea what it was made of except that it’s vegetarian.). We saw a few falafel places as we walked around but were just not feeling them.

Until we saw Mamoun’s Falafel Restaurant, a little hole in the wall place in the village. And, for some reason, we knew that was our place.

Not only was their food absolutely amazing (and I am totally in love with falafel), it’s listed as of the 1000 Places to See Before You Die & is apparently one of the best falafel places in the city. And we found it by simply following the flow.

Life organically happens in an amazing way that is more than you could ever think or plan your way into.

When we let go, follow the flow, engage with people, embrace ecstasy as it happens … that is when live becomes full of excitement. Fun. Joy.

That is when we are successful.

That is when we are rich.

Yum!

3. Courage

When I talk about living your truth, doing crazy sh*t so other people are inspired to do their crazy sh*t, getting okay with being uncomfortable every day, what I’m really taking about is courage.

Courage is taking action when you have fear. When you are uncomfortable.

In my Senior year of college we had a professor for our Environmental Chemistry class who was totally incompetent. And mean. And a real crazy person. I’m serious here … she was a travesty of the profession and should have been immediately fired.

But she wasn’t because the school did not want to get sued.

So instead of sitting around complaining to my classmates, I wrote a manifesto to the editor of the paper signed by every student in the class (that’s what we did before blogs!), met twice with the Dean of Academics (who looked very nervous to see me), and got the necessary paperwork filed to bring her up before a committee of her peers to review her violation of the competency provisions of her contract.

From that hearing, every student’s grades in her class was raised two letter grades (I went from a C+ to an A-). And, she was fired.

One of the reasons I was put on this earth is to speak the things that everyone thinks and no one says.

People speak to me their unspeakable things. I can almost hear what the collective consciousness of a crowd is thinking & not saying when I walk into a room.

And unlike everyone else, for some bizarre reason I’m the one who raises her hand to ask the question. Writes the blog post. Sends out the tweet. Schedules the meeting. Makes the call.

And yes, every time I do this, it still makes me ill. I still can’t eat, have digestive problems, my face breaks out, can’t sleep for days, want to run from the room and hide the bathroom.

The only difference between me and most people, is that for some reason, I speak the truth anyway.

(And most of the time I wish this wasn’t true, that I could be a normal person, damnit. But I’m getting over that.)

4. Enlightenment

Now here I am not talking about Zen or whatever. Cause I don’t do Yoga or go to India or teach feng shui or do any woo woo stuff.

I’m talking about the magical moment when the complex sudden becomes simple.

Back in my sophomore year of college, I studied 14 hours in 1 1/2 days to memorize all the mechanisms for the alkene exam (Organic Chemistry). It was so forced. Painful. I spent the entire time in the chalk room of the Olin library writing and rewriting the mechanisms, over and over, until they were drilled into my brain.

But sometime during that marathon I had my moment. From then on I did not have to memorize mechanisms. I could intuit them. I had figured out the general principles of how molecules enjoyed hanging out with each other, and could just b.s. my way into getting a 94% on the exams. (Side note: from that day on I was bored with Chemistry. Hence why I did not get my PhD.)

When we learn anything – internet marketing, organic chemistry, time management, cooking, guitar, twitter, quantum mechanics, the inner workings of a new friend, why a marriage failed – in the beginning it seems infinitely complex. Without a system or pattern. Hard, tedious, illogical.

And then, after hours, months, or years of studying & practice, there is a precise moment when it clicks.

Where the illusion of complexity falls away and the pattern emerges from the chaos.

And yes, even after that moment, there is work, study, practice involved.

But after that moment you are fundamentally altered.

You can never go back, because from that moment, in some small way, you are a different person. Your outlook and understanding of the universe has changed.

And that moment of enlightenment is one of the most sexy things that human beings experience.

So I invite you to think about not just what you are doing to do this year, but also who you are going to be.

Wait a minute. That’s not it.

I don’t mean who you are going to be, but who you are, already, in this moment.

And instead of worrying about what you should do or make happen this year, embrace who you are … and take massive inspired action from that place.

Because the magic, the serendipity, the power all comes from who you already are.

amendment 1/7/2011:

I’ve realized that my first noble quality, my first word, my most important priority is Ecstasy. But my ideal woman did not approve of Ecstasy as my #1 – Ecstasy was a selfish and self-indulgent thing to put as my most highest purpose in life.

But as I am no longer being dictated to by her, I am embracing Ecstasy as the truth of who I am.

So my new order is: Ecstasy, Love, Courage and Enlightenment

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Comments

  1. ElizabethPW says:

    Yes, I just posted 2 blog posts in 2 days. #signsoftheapocalypse

    Now I'm freaking out that I have to keep this up. Awh, man.

  2. marvelousmartha says:

    epw….not only was this not lame, it was totally engaging. totally. can't wait to figure out my four words. and yes, i did read two of your blogs today. and i don't feel bad about it. if you write one tomorrow or next month, i will read it also. because of who you be.

  3. OMG this is just…….I don't even know the word(s). Wow. I am so honored to know you and love that I know you so well and still learn something profound (and silly and stupid and funny….) every single day.
    THANK YOU for being so gorgeous and delicious in every way. And thank you for showing me what true love is. I mean it. Just today I came to you with something yucky and you showed me it was so much less dramatic and shameful than I was making it. Not to be Ori :) going on and on (LOVE YOU ORI) but I must have done something right to be experiencing and learning and living all of this.
    OK I think #thatisall.
    xo

  4. Pat Robeck says:

    Great blog, We just started a book on Love Relationships in our Adult Sunday School class, and a quote that stuck out is ” God does not need us to do “great things”, He expects us to have great relationships. ” Other things are OK, like money and fame,as long as your number one priority is to love people, and it is obvious that you genuinely love people. Keep up the flow!

  5. Awesome post! Not at all lame. And you've definitely got me thinking about who I already am!!

    Were you the one who said she was going to be 100% herself 100% of the time? I have adopted that as my mantra and touchstone for the year. And it's already changing my life!

    Thanks!
    Jeanine

  6. ElizabethPW says:

    I love you too. #thatisall

  7. sarahrobinson says:

    I am stunned at the beauty of this post EPW – and beyond humbled to be included in it. All the words you've written – so so amazing. The movement in my heart and in my soul when I read and read the ideas, the images, the stories you've woven together into something magical – I cant find words for them. And, as I've said so many times, I really hope I can be like you when I grow up. :-)

    #loveyou

  8. A short version of why you're awesome:

    Warmth
    Joy
    Loudmouth
    Bing!

  9. Leanna says:

    Ok, so all those time I was that person in meetings at work or at school (or in my family) saying the thing that everyone was thinking but no one was saying except me – I was speaking my truth? And they just kept calling it insubordination. Huh. Bastards.

  10. “And instead of worrying about what you should do or make happen this year, embrace who you are … and take massive inspired action from that place.

    Because the magic, the serendipity, the power all comes from who you already are.”

    That's just “Gold” Elizabeth. Talk about serendipity…

    I was watching a video with Byron Katie today from “The Work,” and this concept (similar message) came from her mouth. I'm so listening and being. I surely don't believe it's not accident you shared this today and I thank you :-) (Thank you too Sharla)

    It's never about what I'm willing to gain in the way of knowledge but what I'm willing to let go of in order to just “be.' Great loving reminder where I'm being lead because it just feels so right.

    Rock'en in the right spot with the post Elizabeth-Thank you #yesiamadude lol

  11. Writergrrl says:

    Damn, lady, you did it again! Complete awesome Truth. My fave part “And instead of worrying about what you should do or make happen this year, embrace who you are … and take massive inspired action from that place.” Thank you – that made my day…and that's what I'm building this year on!

  12. ElizabethPW says:

    Yes, being 100% myself 100% of the time … that is what I decided to do. And it's a freaking scary thing to do, but changes everything – decisions, what you will (not) tolerate, relationships – everything. Congrats!

  13. ElizabethPW says:

    thank you so much Catherine (and I could hear the *bing!* sound in my head)

    you know, 5 years ago a client fired me because she said I was “cold” (among other things), and I thought about closing the doors on my business. for about 2 weeks I was totally depressed. (of course, it was about her, not me. but that's another story. blog post. whatever.)

  14. ElizabethPW says:

    yes, it's totally them. not you.

  15. ElizabethPW says:

    Thanks so much Tony, and how awesome to see this message also from Byron Katie's work (no pun intended) … amazing how many of us tap into the same truths.

  16. A non-lame one, I'm sure. :)

    I love the “Bing!” noise. There are times when it's audible in my brain and I run off to explain the concept to someone else because I'm so excited. Luckily, my boyfriend is VERY patient.

  17. ElizabethPW says:

    I'm so excited to see what you end up doing (and being) this year!

  18. oweno says:

    Thank you for sharing this with us…I love reading your posts. I think your relationship with Allison and Sarah is more powerful then you know…sometimes I can see things that others don't see right away. Keep following your flow…you are on the right track.

  19. ElizabethPW says:

    Yes, I just posted 2 blog posts in 2 days. #signsoftheapocalypse

    Now I’m freaking out that I have to keep this up. Awh, man.

  20. marvelousmartha says:

    epw….not only was this not lame, it was totally engaging. totally. can’t wait to figure out my four words. and yes, i did read two of your blogs today. and i don’t feel bad about it. if you write one tomorrow or next month, i will read it also. because of who you be.

  21. OMG this is just…….I don’t even know the word(s). Wow. I am so honored to know you and love that I know you so well and still learn something profound (and silly and stupid and funny….) every single day.
    THANK YOU for being so gorgeous and delicious in every way. And thank you for showing me what true love is. I mean it. Just today I came to you with something yucky and you showed me it was so much less dramatic and shameful than I was making it. Not to be Ori :) going on and on (LOVE YOU ORI) but I must have done something right to be experiencing and learning and living all of this.
    OK I think #thatisall.
    xo

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      I love you too. #thatisall

  22. […] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Elizabeth Weinstein, Tony Teegarden. Tony Teegarden said: RT @ElizabethPW: New Post: Why I’m Not Setting Goals or Picking Words for 2010 http://epw.me/4-words […]

  23. Pat Robeck says:

    Great blog, We just started a book on Love Relationships in our Adult Sunday School class, and a quote that stuck out is ” God does not need us to do “great things”, He expects us to have great relationships. ” Other things are OK, like money and fame,as long as your number one priority is to love people, and it is obvious that you genuinely love people. Keep up the flow!

  24. Awesome post! Not at all lame. And you’ve definitely got me thinking about who I already am!!

    Were you the one who said she was going to be 100% herself 100% of the time? I have adopted that as my mantra and touchstone for the year. And it’s already changing my life!

    Thanks!
    Jeanine

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Yes, being 100% myself 100% of the time … that is what I decided to do. And it’s a freaking scary thing to do, but changes everything – decisions, what you will (not) tolerate, relationships – everything. Congrats!

  25. sarahrobinson says:

    I am stunned at the beauty of this post EPW – and beyond humbled to be included in it. All the words you’ve written – so so amazing. The movement in my heart and in my soul when I read and read the ideas, the images, the stories you’ve woven together into something magical – I cant find words for them. And, as I’ve said so many times, I really hope I can be like you when I grow up. :-)

    #loveyou

  26. A short version of why you’re awesome:

    Warmth
    Joy
    Loudmouth
    Bing!

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      thank you so much Catherine (and I could hear the *bing!* sound in my head)

      you know, 5 years ago a client fired me because she said I was “cold” (among other things), and I thought about closing the doors on my business. for about 2 weeks I was totally depressed. (of course, it was about her, not me. but that’s another story. blog post. whatever.)

      1. A non-lame one, I’m sure. :)

        I love the “Bing!” noise. There are times when it’s audible in my brain and I run off to explain the concept to someone else because I’m so excited. Luckily, my boyfriend is VERY patient.

  27. Leanna says:

    Ok, so all those time I was that person in meetings at work or at school (or in my family) saying the thing that everyone was thinking but no one was saying except me – I was speaking my truth? And they just kept calling it insubordination. Huh. Bastards.

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      yes, it’s totally them. not you.

  28. “And instead of worrying about what you should do or make happen this year, embrace who you are … and take massive inspired action from that place.

    Because the magic, the serendipity, the power all comes from who you already are.”

    That’s just “Gold” Elizabeth. Talk about serendipity…

    I was watching a video with Byron Katie today from “The Work,” and this concept (similar message) came from her mouth. I’m so listening and being. I surely don’t believe it’s not accident you shared this today and I thank you :-) (Thank you too Sharla)

    It’s never about what I’m willing to gain in the way of knowledge but what I’m willing to let go of in order to just “be.’ Great loving reminder where I’m being lead because it just feels so right.

    Rock’en in the right spot with the post Elizabeth-Thank you #yesiamadude lol

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Thanks so much Tony, and how awesome to see this message also from Byron Katie’s work (no pun intended) … amazing how many of us tap into the same truths.

  29. AnjWrites says:

    Damn, lady, you did it again! Complete awesome Truth. My fave part “And instead of worrying about what you should do or make happen this year, embrace who you are … and take massive inspired action from that place.” Thank you – that made my day…and that’s what I’m building this year on!

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      I’m so excited to see what you end up doing (and being) this year!

  30. Totally not lame.

    And feminine and masculine might not be female and male.

    I am working on allowing myself to do what comes natually which is definitely NOT one-focus poke it with your stick masculine, and more holding the intention and allowing. I am so much less tired doing it the way that comes natural.

    Duh.

    So, thanks for putting that into words.

    I love the enlightenment moment, too.

  31. oweno says:

    Thank you for sharing this with us…I love reading your posts. I think your relationship with Allison and Sarah is more powerful then you know…sometimes I can see things that others don’t see right away. Keep following your flow…you are on the right track.

  32. Totally not lame.

    And feminine and masculine might not be female and male.

    I am working on allowing myself to do what comes natually which is definitely NOT one-focus poke it with your stick masculine, and more holding the intention and allowing. I am so much less tired doing it the way that comes natural.

    Duh.

    So, thanks for putting that into words.

    I love the enlightenment moment, too.

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      I agree, it is totally not female/male, we all have both energies w/in us.

  33. Thanks for reminding me, yet again, why I follow you!

    This post is on the opposite end of the spectrum from lame! I love your view on courage. Probably because it so similar to mine! :) I am also the person that will get the answer to the question that no one wants to ask, confront the white elephant sitting in the room, or say the thing that everyone is thinking but doesn't actually want to be responsible for having said.

    Thanks as always for being courageous enough to live your truth and making it easier for the rest of us to live ours!

  34. John Pruitt says:

    Adding my support and acknoledgement that I read you but yet once again my own brain is caught flat footed this early (and this cold) in the morning. I would not want my own mental short comings with non posting to reflect on my appreciation of your writings though :)

    Go team EPW! :)

  35. juliefogg says:

    First I want to tell you how I found you: @staceysoleil tweeted about the ROI Rant http://su.pr/4RaMOW by @dmscott last night and included both of our Twitter handles. I figured if you listened to the ROI Rant plus @stacesoleil is talking to you that you are a little bit of “allright.”

    I started following you to my cell phone (I give many people a chance to show up on my Blackberry for a spell) last night then this morning I saw your tweet about comments ratio to self esteem and it was funny enough to be a call to action for me.

    I read your entire post that you weren't going to post. Like the people that bugged you to post the 2nd post in 2 days, I'm glad you posted this article. I'm sorry about what happened with your marriage. I would like to personally thank you for “saying the things that other people are thinking.” Your courage is refreshing.

    Good job, keep up the work.

    @juliefogg

  36. Thanks for reminding me, yet again, why I follow you!

    This post is on the opposite end of the spectrum from lame! I love your view on courage. Probably because it so similar to mine! :) I am also the person that will get the answer to the question that no one wants to ask, confront the white elephant sitting in the room, or say the thing that everyone is thinking but doesn’t actually want to be responsible for having said.

    Thanks as always for being courageous enough to live your truth and making it easier for the rest of us to live ours!

  37. […] As a woman, I need to tap into my feminine energy. […]

  38. John Pruitt says:

    Adding my support and acknoledgement that I read you but yet once again my own brain is caught flat footed this early (and this cold) in the morning. I would not want my own mental short comings with non posting to reflect on my appreciation of your writings though :)

    Go team EPW! :)

  39. juliefogg says:

    First I want to tell you how I found you: @staceysoleil tweeted about the ROI Rant http://su.pr/4RaMOW by @dmscott last night and included both of our Twitter handles. I figured if you listened to the ROI Rant plus @stacesoleil is talking to you that you are a little bit of “allright.”

    I started following you to my cell phone (I give many people a chance to show up on my Blackberry for a spell) last night then this morning I saw your tweet about comments ratio to self esteem and it was funny enough to be a call to action for me.

    I read your entire post that you weren’t going to post. Like the people that bugged you to post the 2nd post in 2 days, I’m glad you posted this article. I’m sorry about what happened with your marriage. I would like to personally thank you for “saying the things that other people are thinking.” Your courage is refreshing.

    Good job, keep up the work.

    @juliefogg

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Thank you so much Julie, and I love the story of how you found me & came to read this post.

  40. Tim Baran says:

    Love this post. Resonates much more than the ubiquitous three words/firm goals advice. And your four words, not for the year, but for life has got me thinking….about mine. Boy, that's meaningful!

    Your words are somewhat unique. Ecstasy? Post clubbing days, no one even considers that but you've framed it beautifully. I've bookmarked to re-read and digest more later. Thanks so much for sharing!

  41. ElizabethPW says:

    I agree, it is totally not female/male, we all have both energies w/in us.

  42. ElizabethPW says:

    Thank you so much Julie, and I love the story of how you found me & came to read this post.

  43. ElizabethPW says:

    I know, it was kind of funny at first w/ the word ecstasy, that has so many connotations (!!) but really, it was the most high-energy yummy word I could think of to describe my experience. :)

  44. Tim Baran says:

    Love this post. Resonates much more than the ubiquitous three words/firm goals advice. And your four words, not for the year, but for life has got me thinking….about mine. Boy, that’s meaningful!

    Your words are somewhat unique. Ecstasy? Post clubbing days, no one even considers that but you’ve framed it beautifully. I’ve bookmarked to re-read and digest more later. Thanks so much for sharing!

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      I know, it was kind of funny at first w/ the word ecstasy, that has so many connotations (!!) but really, it was the most high-energy yummy word I could think of to describe my experience. :)

  45. Mike Stenger says:

    Another great post Elizabeth! Sorry I'm late again to reading this and commenting. How was this post lame? I think you may be hard on yourself as I'm sure some of us who follow your work can agree.

    I loved where you talked about feminine and masculine power, something a lot of us don't think about. For example, most guys are caught up too much in the masculine that they completely neglect the feminine and it's a lot of times these guys are too intense to be around, complete jerks, or what have you.

    For me, it's more of a 50/50 or even sometimes a 60/40 deal because the feminine allows you to tap into your creativity and work from a more inspired place instead of a “Yeah bro, I'm gonna make a million bucks this year bro!”. Big difference…

    And I totally agree with embracing who you already are and adding on top of that, if you're not currently happy with who you are, do some things differently to become that person you want to be.

  46. Mike Stenger says:

    Another great post Elizabeth! Sorry I’m late again to reading this and commenting. How was this post lame? I think you may be hard on yourself as I’m sure some of us who follow your work can agree.

    I loved where you talked about feminine and masculine power, something a lot of us don’t think about. For example, most guys are caught up too much in the masculine that they completely neglect the feminine and it’s a lot of times these guys are too intense to be around, complete jerks, or what have you.

    For me, it’s more of a 50/50 or even sometimes a 60/40 deal because the feminine allows you to tap into your creativity and work from a more inspired place instead of a “Yeah bro, I’m gonna make a million bucks this year bro!”. Big difference…

    And I totally agree with embracing who you already are and adding on top of that, if you’re not currently happy with who you are, do some things differently to become that person you want to be.

  47. sue_anne says:

    Your post about what happened in college reminded me bout something that I needed to be reminded about. In college, I went after things I was interested in, I wasn't afraid of confrontation, and I was more fearless. I left college early for a number of reasons, and I feel like I've lost that spark that I had back then.

  48. Your post about what happened in college reminded me bout something that I needed to be reminded about. In college, I went after things I was interested in, I wasn’t afraid of confrontation, and I was more fearless. I left college early for a number of reasons, and I feel like I’ve lost that spark that I had back then.

  49. I love this post. And I especially love the photo at the top… I can feel the friendship.
    ~Susan

  50. I love this post. And I especially love the photo at the top… I can feel the friendship.
    ~Susan

  51. I'm picking out a small piece that resonated with me and I think is a valuable exercise. When I first started graduate school in art marketing, we were given a pile of adds to pick and share with the group. In succession, we all spoke about why we liked this or that ad. Some enjoyed the bold colors; others, the composition or sentiment conveyed.

    By studying these ads, I realized what sparks me, what gets me alive and how I'm different than the rest. I understood myself through the visual; marketing, an intensely precise science founded on what makes humans aspire (and purchase), showed me my core values.

    Pick up an image and study it. You'll see who you are after time.

  52. I’m picking out a small piece that resonated with me and I think is a valuable exercise. When I first started graduate school in art marketing, we were given a pile of adds to pick and share with the group. In succession, we all spoke about why we liked this or that ad. Some enjoyed the bold colors; others, the composition or sentiment conveyed.

    By studying these ads, I realized what sparks me, what gets me alive and how I’m different than the rest. I understood myself through the visual; marketing, an intensely precise science founded on what makes humans aspire (and purchase), showed me my core values.

    Pick up an image and study it. You’ll see who you are after time.

  53. […] on that? We’re only 2 weeks into the year, so there’s still time. Here are a few of my favorites.) And, the conscious creator that I am, I did all of those […]

  54. 78stephanie says:

    hey elizabeth with the cool viking hat!
    I love what you write (really love) it completely speeks to me and what i'm experiencing myself (about everything and mostly simplicity, craziness, speaking up and trusting the feminine energy)
    i'm truly looking forward to the PAX feminine energy exercise blog*** yehaaa
    happy greetings out of swiss snow land, stephanie.

  55. 78stephanie says:

    hey elizabeth with the cool viking hat!
    I love what you write (really love) it completely speeks to me and what i’m experiencing myself (about everything and mostly simplicity, craziness, speaking up and trusting the feminine energy)
    i’m truly looking forward to the PAX feminine energy exercise blog*** yehaaa
    happy greetings out of swiss snow land, stephanie.

  56. Yvonne Bynoe says:

    I just read this post. I have to say it's totally amazing…definitely not lame. I admit to being a bit woo-woo, but I fall squarely within in the cerebral comfort zone. Unfortunately for me that's meant that reason have often won over intuition. I am indeed learning to live more in the moment and I have been happier. Thanks for sharing your truth…it's encouraging for the rest of us.

  57. Yvonne Bynoe says:

    I just read this post. I have to say it’s totally amazing…definitely not lame. I admit to being a bit woo-woo, but I fall squarely within in the cerebral comfort zone. Unfortunately for me that’s meant that reason have often won over intuition. I am indeed learning to live more in the moment and I have been happier. Thanks for sharing your truth…it’s encouraging for the rest of us.

  58. Yvonne Bynoe says:

    I just read this post. I have to say it's totally amazing…definitely not lame. I admit to being a bit woo-woo, but I fall squarely within in the cerebral comfort zone. Unfortunately for me that's meant that reason have often won over intuition. I am indeed learning to live more in the moment and I have been happier. Thanks for sharing your truth…it's encouraging for the rest of us.

  59. Shelly says:

    Just watched your recording, printed out the words – circled 33 before you started the exercise… and then I got my 4 words… very interesting to me… am now going to have to ponder these and maybe write a post about this… loved it :)

    My words are:
    Passion
    Confidence
    Vitality
    Integrity

    So hello, my name is Passion Confidence :)

  60. randomshelly says:

    Just watched your recording, printed out the words – circled 33 before you started the exercise… and then I got my 4 words… very interesting to me… am now going to have to ponder these and maybe write a post about this… loved it :)

    My words are:
    Passion
    Confidence
    Vitality
    Integrity

    So hello, my name is Passion Confidence :)

  61. Trece says:

    I’m a bit late finding this post, but I did the exercise and here I am: Grace, Courage, Passion, Vision.
    With grace, I courageously advance toward the vision I’m passionate about.

  62. Peggie says:

    not lame. fun (one of my original words that resonates, amazingly (or not) higher at Enlightenment which is one of my 4. Because I believe we find what we need at precisely the right time I’m not going to bemoan not seeing this until your BFF AllisonNazarian pointed me this way in her blog post today. Nope, I’m going to revel and trust that this is the perfect moment. Thanks.

  63. Trece says:

    I'm a bit late finding this post, but I did the exercise and here I am: Grace, Courage, Passion, Vision.
    With grace, I courageously advance toward the vision I'm passionate about.

  64. Peggie says:

    not lame. fun (one of my original words that resonates, amazingly (or not) higher at Enlightenment which is one of my 4. Because I believe we find what we need at precisely the right time I'm not going to bemoan not seeing this until your BFF AllisonNazarian pointed me this way in her blog post today. Nope, I'm going to revel and trust that this is the perfect moment. Thanks.

  65. Jess Webb says:

    Funny how things can all tie together to lead us to what we need right now. :) I am also glad to have found this post via Allison Nazarian, via randomshelley, via Escaping Mediocrity! ;)

  66. Jess Webb says:

    Funny how things can all tie together to lead us to what we need right now. :) I am also glad to have found this post via Allison Nazarian, via randomshelley, via Escaping Mediocrity! ;)

  67. […] on your purpose. My purpose lights my passion.  Passion is one of my 4 defining words so being on purpose (with passion) naturally lights me up from within.  Passion may not be your […]

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