How to Seduce Me

I get *tons* of people sending me emails, Twitter DMs, and Facebook messages pitching me to buy their stuff, speak at their event, check over their blog, do a joint venture together, etc. It would be impossible for me to work with everyone … but a select few get my immediate response.

So how do you get attention? You need to seduce me. ;)

(this is also how I develop relationships w/ players in our industry!)

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Comments

  1. ElizabethPW says:

    What do you think about the format / player for this video?

    Instead of embedding a video from YouTube (or another system), I converted the video to flash and am using amazon s3 to host the video (and ezs3 for the uploading/player). Still futzing with the right flash file size/specs.

  2. you're cute – and love your videos!
    you have this very fun, young energy that i think rocks!

    and yes.. .totally agree with you re: telesummit solo emails – i think the same thing.. and usually turn those “partnerships” down

    lots of love!

    blaire allison
    the love guru
    intuitive heart healer
    http://www.loveguru.net

  3. John Pruitt says:

    When people talk to me about producing videos I often try to get them to keep it from thirty seconds to a minute tops. You are entertaining all they way through five minutes :). Do longer videos! And thank you on this one. It's been a tiring year on twitter as I go through the DM's just looking for one real one. I think I liked this one better than Goals sucked too, and that one was an Oscar quality subject and delivery.

  4. Lyndi says:

    Elizabeth, you crack me up! Well said and how fancy schmancy of you to use the A3! You've just laid out a valuable roadmap for building a relationship online. One more tip, visiting the blog of your “target” if they have one and leaving a great comment, not just a attaboy, but adding value to their space for their readers. You've inspired me to go stalk some speakers I want to seduce. Keep up the good work!

  5. ElizabethPW says:

    There's a fine line b/t asking an expert to be a speaker & using them for their list. That's the thing we need to be careful of when we ask people to speak at our stuff!

  6. ElizabethPW says:

    Thank you John! The thing is, a video should be as long as it needs to be. And … people need to have the energy to carry the video (also true for audio) … when we produce audio/video content, we have to be *entertaining* to carry the listener/viewer. I consciously get myself pumped up before I do videos, and usually stand when I record audios.

  7. ElizabethPW says:

    Agreed, I will also subscribe to their blog & comment a few times (or regularly, if the topic particularly resonates with me) with *substantive* comments. And, even ask a question, to see if I can get them to respond/reply to my comment on their blog.

  8. Sue Bates says:

    I work with a lot of couples and I just LOVE this. Fun and very true way to look at courtship of any type!

  9. These are such great tips, Elizabeth! I literally laughed out loud when you gave the example of people approaching you with “do you have any ideas on how we can work together?”! Oh my LANDS! That question is usually an indicator to me of who would be the one doing all the legwork in a new partnership! Nothankyouplease.

  10. ElizabethPW says:

    What do you think about the format / player for this video?

    Instead of embedding a video from YouTube (or another system), I converted the video to flash and am using amazon s3 to host the video (and ezs3 for the uploading/player). Still futzing with the right flash file size/specs.

    1. Great video! Very encouraging and I love Amazon S3 and ezs3 is a great service.

      Andy
      http://cloudberrylab.com/

  11. you’re cute – and love your videos!
    you have this very fun, young energy that i think rocks!

    and yes.. .totally agree with you re: telesummit solo emails – i think the same thing.. and usually turn those “partnerships” down

    lots of love!

    blaire allison
    the love guru
    intuitive heart healer
    http://www.loveguru.net

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      There’s a fine line b/t asking an expert to be a speaker & using them for their list. That’s the thing we need to be careful of when we ask people to speak at our stuff!

  12. John Pruitt says:

    When people talk to me about producing videos I often try to get them to keep it from thirty seconds to a minute tops. You are entertaining all they way through five minutes :). Do longer videos! And thank you on this one. It’s been a tiring year on twitter as I go through the DM’s just looking for one real one. I think I liked this one better than Goals sucked too, and that one was an Oscar quality subject and delivery.

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Thank you John! The thing is, a video should be as long as it needs to be. And … people need to have the energy to carry the video (also true for audio) … when we produce audio/video content, we have to be *entertaining* to carry the listener/viewer. I consciously get myself pumped up before I do videos, and usually stand when I record audios.

  13. Lyndi says:

    Elizabeth, you crack me up! Well said and how fancy schmancy of you to use the A3! You’ve just laid out a valuable roadmap for building a relationship online. One more tip, visiting the blog of your “target” if they have one and leaving a great comment, not just a attaboy, but adding value to their space for their readers. You’ve inspired me to go stalk some speakers I want to seduce. Keep up the good work!

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Agreed, I will also subscribe to their blog & comment a few times (or regularly, if the topic particularly resonates with me) with *substantive* comments. And, even ask a question, to see if I can get them to respond/reply to my comment on their blog.

  14. Sue Bates says:

    I work with a lot of couples and I just LOVE this. Fun and very true way to look at courtship of any type!

  15. Elizabeth,
    This is so true. I can confirm this in both ways, pitching and receiving.
    On the website side, since I removed my website in my twitter the replies started to slowdown. if you don't have anything to show up, people just don't show any interest.

    By the way I like the video format looks better than youtube.

    PS: A lot of movement, since I started to write this comment, I saw like 100 replies in your twitter widget :)

  16. These are such great tips, Elizabeth! I literally laughed out loud when you gave the example of people approaching you with “do you have any ideas on how we can work together?”! Oh my LANDS! That question is usually an indicator to me of who would be the one doing all the legwork in a new partnership! Nothankyouplease.

  17. grandmamary says:

    Love this video – I also like the format, looks nice. But great message and I'm planning on seducing you shortly so I'm posting a comment, tweeting this and Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific :)

  18. Elizabeth,
    This is so true. I can confirm this in both ways, pitching and receiving.
    On the website side, since I removed my website in my twitter the replies started to slowdown. if you don’t have anything to show up, people just don’t show any interest.

    By the way I like the video format looks better than youtube.

    PS: A lot of movement, since I started to write this comment, I saw like 100 replies in your twitter widget :)

  19. Grandma Mary says:

    Love this video – I also like the format, looks nice. But great message and I’m planning on seducing you shortly so I’m posting a comment, tweeting this and Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific :)

  20. Martta71 says:

    That is such good advice to anyone starting on Twitter. I really had no clue what that was about when I started. Actually in Twitter I still feel like my mom on Facebook – in it, but dunno what the heck I'm supposed to be doing there…

    This format is just perfect, and you got me commenting on your page too instead of Youtube! :).
    Flash propably solves the Youtube issue. I was planning on clicking the autoshare on there, but wanted to ask you first that was it how that autoposting started on your FB page?

    Have great week!

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  22. tomdickson says:

    Great info and video! :) FYI, the new video format doesn't show in rss feeder (or at least google reader), so all it shows is your intro paragraph…

  23. Great video! Very encouraging and I love Amazon S3 and ezs3 is a great service.

    Andy
    http://cloudberrylab.com/

  24. Mari Uusitalo says:

    That is such good advice to anyone starting on Twitter. I really had no clue what that was about when I started. Actually in Twitter I still feel like my mom on Facebook – in it, but dunno what the heck I’m supposed to be doing there…

    This format is just perfect, and you got me commenting on your page too instead of Youtube! :).
    Flash propably solves the Youtube issue. I was planning on clicking the autoshare on there, but wanted to ask you first that was it how that autoposting started on your FB page?

    Have great week!

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Mari – thanks, I’m glad you got so much out of the video. I turned on that youtube-facebook autoshare so long ago I don’t remember how I did it, and now I can’t turn it off. lol

  25. tomdickson says:

    Great info and video! :) FYI, the new video format doesn’t show in rss feeder (or at least google reader), so all it shows is your intro paragraph…

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Thanks for letting me know Tom, not quite sure why. Maybe only youtube shows up in google reader (wouldn’t surprise me since google owns youtube and has every incentive to break videos that are not using their system). I’ll have to add language re clicking through to see the video, or something.

      1. tomdickson says:

        Yeah I have a feeling it has something to do with the coding… b/c in Jonathan Fields last post- http://bit.ly/2RMuj9 he used Viddler and it showed up… yet Gary V also uses it and it doesn’t appear.

        Oh, and no problem! Anyway I can help! :)

  26. ElizabethPW says:

    Thanks for letting me know Tom, not quite sure why. Maybe only youtube shows up in google reader (wouldn't surprise me since google owns youtube and has every incentive to break videos that are not using their system). I'll have to add language re clicking through to see the video, or something.

  27. ElizabethPW says:

    Mari – thanks, I'm glad you got so much out of the video. I turned on that youtube-facebook autoshare so long ago I don't remember how I did it, and now I can't turn it off. lol

  28. You make some very good points in your video. All common sense really if you think about it.
    I am starting a new review site and when I first started pitching to companies to sponor it I just asked them would they like to sponsor, and got no response. When started telling them whatthey could get out of it, I started getting a response back from them. I have also been emailing some others that have not responded yet just to keep them updated with what is going on, Got one response that way so far.

    http://reviewsfromtheshed.boofly.com

  29. tomdickson says:

    Yeah I have a feeling it has something to do with the coding… b/c in Jonathan Fields last post- http://bit.ly/2RMuj9 he used Viddler and it showed up… yet Gary V also uses it and it doesn't appear.

    Oh, and no problem! Anyway I can help! :)

  30. Sheri Ruston says:

    I totally agree with you Elizabeth!! You made some great points. I delete 99% of the DM messages I receive on Twitter.

    Sheri
    http://www.TheFlowDoctor.com

  31. You make some very good points in your video. All common sense really if you think about it.
    I am starting a new review site and when I first started pitching to companies to sponor it I just asked them would they like to sponsor, and got no response. When started telling them whatthey could get out of it, I started getting a response back from them. I have also been emailing some others that have not responded yet just to keep them updated with what is going on, Got one response that way so far.

    http://reviewsfromtheshed.boofly.com

    1. ElizabethPW says:

      Great to hear that you’re having success w/ that James! And, remember that people are forgetful & busy, so just making it a no-brainer really helps them (and you!).

  32. Sheri Ruston says:

    I totally agree with you Elizabeth!! You made some great points. I delete 99% of the DM messages I receive on Twitter.

    Sheri
    http://www.TheFlowDoctor.com

  33. DebraMarrs says:

    Another fab video with super message, Elizabeth. Really like the new format too. It drives me crazy when people's social networking skills are non-social, even anti-social, so I'm RTing this message to get the word out. Great hook with the title How to Seduce Me. Kudos to you.

  34. DebraMarrs says:

    Another fab video with super message, Elizabeth. Really like the new format too. It drives me crazy when people’s social networking skills are non-social, even anti-social, so I’m RTing this message to get the word out. Great hook with the title How to Seduce Me. Kudos to you.

  35. ElizabethPW says:

    Great to hear that you're having success w/ that James! And, remember that people are forgetful & busy, so just making it a no-brainer really helps them (and you!).

  36. Lisa Larter says:

    Great video, love it! You are always so candid and real in how you portray information. That is what I like about you.

    And you are so right, sometimes people lack common sense in how they approach a person on line. I mean would you pick up the phone and pitch someone the same way? Never.

  37. Lisa Larter says:

    Great video, love it! You are always so candid and real in how you portray information. That is what I like about you.

    And you are so right, sometimes people lack common sense in how they approach a person on line. I mean would you pick up the phone and pitch someone the same way? Never.

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  39. hey…wanna jv?…kidding really. we are in totaly different businesses but great video! …lol

  40. Lisa Young says:

    “if we're gonna be doing something together and you're the only one who'd going to be having any fun, I am totally not interested. I need to at least think that I'm gonna be getting some, too.”

    If you take that out of context it applies so well to many of life's, um, situations. Just sayin'.

    Brilliant as usual, King Friday. Food for thought for my next event as well.
    Cheers!

  41. Great info as always. It is really amazing how people pitch online without any previous interaction. You got it so right — it's all about seduction. Amazing how once online, often times people's basic common sense goes out the window! Say hi first, ask how I'm doing, if they can buy me a drink, have some great conversation, let's get to know each other a bit first — then come at me with your pitch.

  42. I love your videos Elizabeth! This one is no exception. I especially liked the analogy to dating, it's SO true too! And honestly, social media makes “making friends/seducing” so much easier, that there's really no reason to try to close the sale immediately. :)

  43. hey…wanna jv?…kidding really. we are in totaly different businesses but great video! …lol

  44. “if we’re gonna be doing something together and you’re the only one who’d going to be having any fun, I am totally not interested. I need to at least think that I’m gonna be getting some, too.”

    If you take that out of context it applies so well to many of life’s, um, situations. Just sayin’.

    Brilliant as usual, King Friday. Food for thought for my next event as well.
    Cheers!

  45. Great info as always. It is really amazing how people pitch online without any previous interaction. You got it so right — it’s all about seduction. Amazing how once online, often times people’s basic common sense goes out the window! Say hi first, ask how I’m doing, if they can buy me a drink, have some great conversation, let’s get to know each other a bit first — then come at me with your pitch.

  46. I love your videos Elizabeth! This one is no exception. I especially liked the analogy to dating, it’s SO true too! And honestly, social media makes “making friends/seducing” so much easier, that there’s really no reason to try to close the sale immediately. :)

  47. tomlehner says:

    Liz,
    as usually you have been inspring to me and giving me alot of things to think about. now here is the thing about relationhip – I would love to, some day make up for all the inspiration you have given to me. I wish I were better in that. Thank you for being you and thank for for allowing me to follow you on twitter, facebook and here.

    I promisse I make up for all you give me.

    God Bless you

  48. Tom Lehner says:

    Liz,
    as usually you have been inspring to me and giving me alot of things to think about. now here is the thing about relationhip – I would love to, some day make up for all the inspiration you have given to me. I wish I were better in that. Thank you for being you and thank for for allowing me to follow you on twitter, facebook and here.

    I promisse I make up for all you give me.

    God Bless you

  49. ginaparris says:

    Elizabeth, you are so funny and right on. Actually the video might be less funny if the “JV folks” out there weren't so clueless like you mentioned. It actually took a long time for me to load the video, I almost went to look for it on youtube, but the issue is most likely some strange issue with my computer, so my feedback on the format may not be the most accurate.

    Keep living your truth!

    Gina

  50. GinaParris says:

    Elizabeth, you are so funny and right on. Actually the video might be less funny if the “JV folks” out there weren’t so clueless like you mentioned. It actually took a long time for me to load the video, I almost went to look for it on youtube, but the issue is most likely some strange issue with my computer, so my feedback on the format may not be the most accurate.

    Keep living your truth!

    Gina

  51. stressmanagementcoach says:

    I totally love and agree what you have just said. I was @russellbrunson seminar this past week. He said the same thing (and he makes millions$!) He says like you. Its all in the relationship. Its all in the dance. My 14 year old son says that not only is biz about relationships but all of life is. Very wise for his age. We want to do bix and live life with people we like and live not just any Tom, Dick or Harry. Unless, that is your name and I really do like you :)

  52. I totally love and agree what you have just said. I was @russellbrunson seminar this past week. He said the same thing (and he makes millions$!) He says like you. Its all in the relationship. Its all in the dance. My 14 year old son says that not only is biz about relationships but all of life is. Very wise for his age. We want to do bix and live life with people we like and live not just any Tom, Dick or Harry. Unless, that is your name and I really do like you :)

  53. moiselevi says:

    Thanks for sharing :)
    Now I know what to tell “them” :)

  54. moiselevi says:

    Thanks for sharing :)
    Now I know what to tell “them” :)

  55. I simply wanted say how right on your advice is! Woo eee. I love it!

    I'm seriously going to forward this to the next batch of PR folks who email me blindly, asking me to please promote their special gadget…. just because. Thank you.

  56. I simply wanted say how right on your advice is! Woo eee. I love it!

    I’m seriously going to forward this to the next batch of PR folks who email me blindly, asking me to please promote their special gadget…. just because. Thank you.

  57. leah_DefytheBox says:

    You Rock! This is very cool and right on.

  58. leah_DefytheBox says:

    You Rock! This is very cool and right on.

  59. petermars says:

    Hi Elizabeth, the video loaded a bit slow on my site of the planet, but when it started I stayed with you until the end. Intresting statement you made and recording in a car was also something I've never seen before..hahaha.. I wish you a peacefull day and later on I will look at yr others videos. Greetings, Peter

  60. Peter Mars says:

    Hi Elizabeth, the video loaded a bit slow on my site of the planet, but when it started I stayed with you until the end. Intresting statement you made and recording in a car was also something I’ve never seen before..hahaha.. I wish you a peacefull day and later on I will look at yr others videos. Greetings, Peter

  61. Dave Doolin says:

    My goodness…

    There's the “text,” there's the “subtext”… then there's the Rest of the Story…

    And what I'm hearing sounds very, very interesting.

    Nothing to pitch, yet.

  62. Dave Doolin says:

    My goodness…

    There’s the “text,” there’s the “subtext”… then there’s the Rest of the Story…

    And what I’m hearing sounds very, very interesting.

    Nothing to pitch, yet.

  63. First Last says:

    Very insightful video. What we learned from your video is that prompting someone for action is very similar to courtship and our fundamentals in courtship should first taken care of, helping the other person first and only then, if needed, asking the other person for help. Valuable video. Thanks !

    You are very beautiful !

  64. First Last says:

    Very insightful video. What we learned from your video is that prompting someone for action is very similar to courtship and our fundamentals in courtship should first taken care of, helping the other person first and only then, if needed, asking the other person for help. Valuable video. Thanks !

    You are very beautiful !

  65. Mike Stenger says:

    ha ha, you said getting some ;-) Great tips Elizabeth! I think I first came across your content and connected with you on Twitter back in October so I missed this post (just saw the link to this on Facebook). You made some great points and when there's really no relationship, there is no trust.

    There's the old principle, “People buy from those they know, like, and trust.” Same thing works with getting people to share something, work with you, etc…I could promise you 50% of a $997 sale but if you've got no idea who I am, you're not sure if you like me (that is, unless I just spammed you), and no trust is there, you could care less about the cash because there's plenty of other things you could promote from people you already know!

    By the way, I thought you were easily seduced by dark chocolate? I guess if I ever want to get you to share something, I'll Fedex a box over to you ASAP ;-)

  66. Mike Stenger says:

    ha ha, you said getting some ;-) Great tips Elizabeth! I think I first came across your content and connected with you on Twitter back in October so I missed this post (just saw the link to this on Facebook). You made some great points and when there’s really no relationship, there is no trust.

    There’s the old principle, “People buy from those they know, like, and trust.” Same thing works with getting people to share something, work with you, etc…I could promise you 50% of a $997 sale but if you’ve got no idea who I am, you’re not sure if you like me (that is, unless I just spammed you), and no trust is there, you could care less about the cash because there’s plenty of other things you could promote from people you already know!

    By the way, I thought you were easily seduced by dark chocolate? I guess if I ever want to get you to share something, I’ll Fedex a box over to you ASAP ;-)

  67. I like that this type of video is clean and focused, keeps the person viewing it on your site. Whenever someone clicks through to YouTube, there is much opportuntity to get distracted with other videos by other people.

  68. I like that this type of video is clean and focused, keeps the person viewing it on your site. Whenever someone clicks through to YouTube, there is much opportuntity to get distracted with other videos by other people.

  69. I like that this type of video is clean and focused, keeps the person viewing it on your site. Whenever someone clicks through to YouTube, there is much opportuntity to get distracted with other videos by other people.

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