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An Awareness of The More.

By on September 5, 2010 in Living Your Truth

(This is the first part of The Live Your Truth Manifesto - don’t ask me how many parts or when it will come out etc. because I’m writing it blog post, by blog post. Let’s just see what amazing places this leads us to, shall we?)

All journeys of Living Your Truth start with the sudden suspicion.

The suspicion that something is missing.

Your life may have all kinds of alleged indications of success – grades, degrees, awards, marriage, mortgage, kids, job, business – but you just aren’t feeling it anymore.

The awards for another year of good behavior is just dry to you. Monochrome. Flavorless.

And you just stop being able to fake it anymore.

So to get you back in the program, “they” start telling you that:

“you should be happy”
“it must be nice to (insert thing you should feel guilty for not appreciating)”
“this is just how it is, no one is really happy”
“you just need to grow up”
“you just need to settle down”
“being happy is just not realistic. this is the real world, not fantasyland.”
“life is about compromise, you need to get used to it”

These mantras twist in your head, infecting your soul, until you finally turn to melancholy. Depression.

Or worse, the unfeeling nothing of having given up the hope.

Until the day when an unbalance enters your world.

It may be a book you devour all night, so altered by the ideas contained therein you can’t put it down to sleep. A piece of music that makes you shiver. A word from a loved one that makes you cry. Meeting someone who has a fundamentally different kind of life & worldview, who shows you what might be possible.

You may be forced into it when some “success” of your life implodes. You loose a job, your marriage disintegrates, your business fails, the house is taken away by floodwaters, someone is struck ill or dies unexpectedly. And your entire perspective is violated. Blasted apart overnight.

However it happens, a tiny brilliant spark enters the blankness in you mind.

An awareness of The More.

Is this how it started for you? Was there a time when you all of a sudden woke up to the world of the real? What unbalanced your life?

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  • JackiYo

    Did this resonate with me? Ya think?
    http://www.ourworldfromatoz.ca/2010/09/more.html

  • http://lisa-unmasked.com Lisa MB

    Unfortunately, I am unable to share the entire story (innocents involved), but suffice it to say I woke up after one of the worst days of my adult life and realized I had no idea who I was. The person I *thought* I was had become unrecognizable…overnight. At the age of 33, I was completely lost. And 1 year later, my mother, my foundation, died and I began rebuilding my identity from the ground up.And that began my journey of first FINDING my truth. Living it (as you know) is a whole ‘nother story.Looking forward to the manifesto unfolding, E.

  • http://twitter.com/JenniLeeBlack Jennifer Black

    Love this post!!
    This is exactly where I am right now. I’m tired of waiting and really not really knowing what I’m waiting for. I want to find that road that will allow me to show the world all I have to offer it and allow me to experience all that the world has to offer me!
    Thank you so much, Elizabeth, for showing me I’m not alone in these “crazy” thoughts and that striving to meet the world head on is a positive step.

  • http://loveyourmessbook.com Allison Nazarian

    profound. knowing, not knowing, there, not there, more, less, yes, no, black, white, red, now, later, never. ahhhhhhhh………….yes (no)
    xo

  • http://www.wordpress.jackiedotson.com Jackie Dotson

    Yup. Resonates. Yup. Yup. Yup.

    For me about a year and a half ago I noticed really low energy whenever I had to go to my office. I found myself completely de-energized by my work. But that’s normal right? (heh) Work isn’t supposed to be fun! (heh) This is the way it is (ugh). I pressed on. I noticed that my decrease in energy came not long after I began devouring business books and meeting more and more people OUTSIDE my industry, who were loving their work.

    And the lights started to come on. I don’t have to be deadened by my work. It’s NOT the right career for me. I CAN spin it off into something that thrills me. Don’t quite know what that is yet, but it’s coming. I read and read and read some more. The stuff I read sets me on fire. I am reading Trust Agents by Chris Brogan and Julien Smith and I can’t put it down.

    I am currently working in what I call “the last job I can tolerate in my field” and that will be coming to an end in a few months when the contract ends. Everyone around me tells me I should be freaking out. Instead, I am freaking thrilled.

    As I learn more, explore more, I have felt some of the lowest lows I have ever felt. I can now admit that I absolutely despise being a clinical social worker. I don’t regret my first career choice because it has led me to some great people and places, but I cannot do this for a living anymore. It goes against the grain of who I am, ,y beliefs, my ENTJ self.

    I am hopeful though that the lowest lows I have experienced this year are leading the way to my truth and some higher highs, if you will.

    So thank you for speaking your truth!

  • JackiYo

    Did this resonate with me? Ya think?
    http://www.ourworldfromatoz.ca/2010/09/more.html

  • http://lisa-unmasked.com Lisa MB

    Unfortunately, I am un,able to share the entire story (innocents involved), but suffice it to say I woke up after one of the worst days of my adult life and realized I had no idea who I was. The person I *thought* I was had become unrecognizable…overnight. At the age of 33, I was completely lost. And 1 year later, my mother, my foundation, died and I began rebuilding my identity from the ground up.

    And that began my journey of first FINDING my truth. Living it (as you know) is a whole 'nother story.

    Looking forward to the manifesto unfolding, E.

  • http://twitter.com/JenniLeeBlack Jennifer Black

    Love this post!!
    This is exactly where I am right now. I'm tired of waiting and really not really knowing what I'm waiting for. I want to find that road that will allow me to show the world all I have to offer it and allow me to experience all that the world has to offer me!
    Thank you so much, Elizabeth, for showing me I'm not alone in these “crazy” thoughts and that striving to meet the world head on is a positive step.

  • http://allisonnazarian.com/ Allison Nazarian

    profound. knowing, not knowing, there, not there, more, less, yes, no, black, white, red, now, later, never. ahhhhhhhh………….yes (no)
    xo

  • http://www.wordpress.jackiedotson.com Jackie Dotson

    Yup. Resonates. Yup. Yup. Yup.

    For me about a year and a half ago I noticed really low energy whenever I had to go to my office. I found myself completely de-energized by my work. But that's normal right? (heh) Work isn't supposed to be fun! (heh) This is the way it is (ugh). I pressed on. I noticed that my decrease in energy came not long after I began devouring business books and meeting more and more people OUTSIDE my industry, who were loving their work.

    And the lights started to come on. I don't have to be deadened by my work. It's NOT the right career for me. I CAN spin it off into something that thrills me. Don't quite know what that is yet, but it's coming. I read and read and read some more. The stuff I read sets me on fire. I am reading Trust Agents by Chris Brogan and Julien Smith and I can't put it down.

    I am currently working in what I call “the last job I can tolerate in my field” and that will be coming to an end in a few months when the contract ends. Everyone around me tells me I should be freaking out. Instead, I am freaking thrilled.

    As I learn more, explore more, I have felt some of the lowest lows I have ever felt. I can now admit that I absolutely despise being a clinical social worker. I don't regret my first career choice because it has led me to some great people and places, but I cannot do this for a living anymore. It goes against the grain of who I am, ,y beliefs, my ENTJ self.

    I am hopeful though that the lowest lows I have experienced this year are leading the way to my truth and some higher highs, if you will.

    So thank you for speaking your truth!

  • http://twitter.com/brothertona Andrew Brotherton

    I have most definitely had this feeling, and it is shocking. We hear that small voice and part of us wants to avoid it because change is painful, and can be heart wrenching and makes us sacrifice some creature comfort but change is needed. Change pushes us and confronts us and makes us the person we should be, not just the person that it is most convenient to be. Love this post.

  • http://www.sandiegohealthbuzz.com Pam

    I am going through all of this right NOW. Ugh. It hurts! But its better than staying where I was.

    Thanks for continually sharing your truth!

  • meganmatthieson

    Beautiful post. Can’t comment. But I’m hearing you.

  • http://www.monicawaughbenton.com MonicaWB

    I remember the exact moment it happened the first time. I was 25, and it sent me on the piece of the journey I’m wrapping up now. What I never expected was that it would happen again and so dramatically at 33. Last time it felt euphoric. This time it hurts like bloody hell. If I didn’t have so many awesome blog posts to read from other women experiencing change and coming out ahead, it would hurt a lot more. Thx!

  • http://twitter.com/brothertona Andrew Brotherton

    I have most definitely had this feeling, and it is shocking. We hear that small voice and part of us wants to avoid it because change is painful, and can be heart wrenching and makes us sacrifice some creature comfort but change is needed. Change pushes us and confronts us and makes us the person we should be, not just the person that it is most convenient to be. Love this post.

  • http://www.sandiegohealthbuzz.com Pam

    I am going through all of this right NOW. Ugh. It hurts! But its better than staying where I was.

    Thanks for continually sharing your truth!

  • meganmatthieson

    Beautiful post. Can't comment. But I'm hearing you.

  • http://www.steadyflowcontent.com MonicaWB

    I remember the exact moment it happened the first time. I was 25, and it sent me on the piece of the journey I'm wrapping up now. What I never expected was that it would happen again and so dramatically at 33. Last time it felt euphoric. This time it hurts like bloody hell. If I didn't have so many awesome blog posts to read from other women experiencing change and coming out ahead, it would hurt a lot more. Thx!

  • Core

    I haven’t had an event like this happen. I really wish one would. Something that just smacks me in the face. And like waking up from a bad dream I take a breath of fresh air and get my act together.

    I’ve had little shakes in my life that say there are more. But its more like catching the glimmer of something moving on the horizon. You think you seen something, and maybe you did, but its just so far off, that its hard to tell.

  • Core

    I haven't had an event like this happen. I really wish one would. Something that just smacks me in the face. And like waking up from a bad dream I take a breath of fresh air and get my act together.

    I've had little shakes in my life that say there are more. But its more like catching the glimmer of something moving on the horizon. You think you seen something, and maybe you did, but its just so far off, that its hard to tell.

  • http://outcomemarketing.com Karilee

    After the whack-a-mole phase where everything fell apart, there wasn’t much left. But if you hold on and don’t give up, eventually, as you say, that tiny brilliant spark appears.

    The pieces I’ve discovered so far:
    Stop waiting for your life to start.
    Figure out your values (email me through my site if you don’t know how).
    Decide to be you (authenticity).
    Learn new things. Feed your head.
    Be willing to lead.
    Choose to spend time with your right people. And not the rest.
    Do something. If it doesn’t work, do something else.
    Give some stuff away to those who need it.

    There’s more, but I’m only part way through the journey, and haven’t discovered the rest yet. Anyone figured out the part about dealing with the critical voices in your head?

  • http://outcomemarketing.com Karilee – Marketing/Tech Coach

    After the whack-a-mole phase where everything fell apart, there wasn't much left. But if you hold on and don't give up, eventually, as you say, that tiny brilliant spark appears.

    The pieces I've discovered so far:
    Stop waiting for your life to start.
    Figure out your values (email me through my site if you don't know how).
    Decide to be you (authenticity).
    Learn new things. Feed your head.
    Be willing to lead.
    Choose to spend time with your right people. And not the rest.
    Do something. If it doesn't work, do something else.
    Give some stuff away to those who need it.

    There's more, but I'm only part way through the journey, and haven't discovered the rest yet. Anyone figured out the part about dealing with the critical voices in your head?

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